No. I think you have the power to break toxic cycles. I think people are capable of understanding that sometimes two people just shouldn’t be together and that even when it hurts to do so, cutting ties is still the best idea.
I think it takes work. I think it takes determination. And I think it’s hard a lot of people blame their inability to do the hard thing on it being “fate.” I don’t like that.
Story time! I was deeply, DEEPLY in love with someone who was fucking terrible for me. (For everyone, maybe? He was pretty toxic.) I kept going back. And going. And going. And even when I was no longer returning to him in a romantic capacity he would still pop up in my life occasionally and we would mend fences and be friendly and then he’d wander off again and I would be hurt and sad and feel rejected all over again.
Eventually you have to decide that you are worth more than repeating the same stupid mistakes. And that in order to find real happiness you sometimes have to do the hard thing for a while.
No one person is your destiny. You decide where you end up.
"And if the day came when I felt a
I’d get such a shock I’d probably jump
In the ocean ”
The 1975 + Similarities In Their Lyrics
(I looked high and low for the post that inspired this but I couldn’t find it anywhere. If I ever find it again, I’ll be sure to link it)
|—||Nicholas Sparks (via onlinecounsellingcollege)|